Are you starting to worry that you have anger issues or feel like you’re angry all the time? you are not alone. A mother’s life is full of triggers that can make you angry. Your partner didn’t do any of the things you needed to do. (And she asked kindly the first three times.) Your baby used your bottom like a climbing wall carrier to pull herself up on the sofa. cat Won’t stop meowing. And the neighbor decided to blow Adele at 3:00 in the morning? What is this nonsense. And these are just annoyances in the house – don’t get us started on a state of the world study. So yes, there are plenty of things to be very grumpy about. It is enough for anyone to stop sometimes and wonder, Do I have anger problems? Or is that how it feels as a parent in today’s world?
After all, we know how to calm our children, but how do we calm ourselves? Unlike when our moms were moms, we can’t easily turn it off or filter out what we don’t want to deal with. These days our main form of social networking is social media, and social media is filled with all the horrible nonsense that is currently making the world revolve around it. It’s good to know what’s going on. It’s good to Care about what’s going on. Even if someone else’s problems make you angry, at the end of the day, it only means that you are empathetic towards others. In other words, you are not immersed in yourself.
With that said, how do you know you’re getting too angry? How can you tell if you’re not reacting properly? If your anger ebbs and flows in dramatic swells, should you worry about an undiagnosed mental health condition? Should you talk to your doctor about medications or anger management classes? We asked an expert for their advice.
How do you know if your anger is just anger?
Dr. Stephanie Parmley, MD, a behavioral health physician at Dignity Health Mercy Medical Group, began by explaining that anger is not a one-size-fits-all emotion. “Anger is a normal human emotion that is usually preceded by a situation that angers the person,” says Dr. Parmeli. “Some people can be more sensitive to certain stimuli that others are not. However, the bottom line is that most people get angry and this is not clinical. The concern is how a person acts when angry. The behavior can be beneficial or unhelpful, depending on On the action, it can lead to consequences.”
This explains why you feel irritated by a full sink but your partner doesn’t notice. But if everyone has different triggers and reacts to anger differently, how do we know if we should worry about anger being indicative of something else, perhaps an undiagnosed mental health condition like bipolar disorder?
First, it is important to note that most mental health conditions involve more than just ‘anger’. Bipolar disorder, for example, is a clinical diagnosis resulting from a deficiency of certain neurotransmitters.
“There must be at least one episode of manic or hypomanic behavior with a period of depression,” says Dr. Parmley. “An episode of mania or hypomania is often a characteristic period of increased energy (it can look like fast or pressurized speech, flight of thoughts, racing thoughts, more excitement in movements and behaviour), decreased need for sleep while not appearing tired, and engaging in more of risk-taking behaviors, increased goal-directed activities (excessive focus on goals), and possibly even hallucinations/or delusions. For people in the manic phase, they may be more prone to anger and irritability, but these are usually seen with the other symptoms listed above together.”
What if you still suspect that you or a loved one has anger issues…or more?
Before confronting a loved one or immediately escalates after diagnosing yourself, seek professional help. “If you suspect any noticeable mood changes in your child or a loved one, speak to his or her doctor,” says Dr. Parmeli, noting that while treatment is “very helpful” for anger issues, medication And the Treatment is often necessary for some mental health conditions (including bipolar disorder).
How can you control your emotions and anger now?
It is not always easy to go to a therapist or doctor’s office. Getting the help they need is often a long and arduous struggle for people with mental or emotional problems. While you should definitely talk to a doctor, there are a few things you can try in a moment of anger.
Take yourself off the trigger.
Is there something frustrating you on the internet? Turn off your phone. Does your kid hit the unique whining note that puts your teeth on edge? He left the room.
Take a long, slow deep breath.
There are entire episodes of children’s shows, including Sesame Street and Daniel Tiger, about regulating emotions. These same steps aren’t just for kids. Mindful breathing is just one of many Mindfulness exercises It can help you reset your feelings.
Count up to 10, 20 or 100.
Whatever you take – whatever it costs. Just keep counting.
Find cool water.
Cold water often shocks your system a bit, thus distracting you from your hot feelings. Simply wash your hands or splash some water on your face if you can get rid of it.
Another way to calm yourself down is to distract yourself from everything you’ve been doing. The preferred way to do this is, again, a mindfulness exercise—this time, an exercise to refocus your attention, such as the “five senses exercise.” Look around, notice, and name it: 5 things you can see, 4 things you can feel (physically), 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and one thing you can taste.
#anger #problems #check #mothers #anger